Much has been said, and rightly so, about Katniss Everdeen and the way she challenges a lot of traditional narratives about girls. She carries a bow, she fights, she kills, she survives, she’s emotionally unavailable, she’d rather act than talk, and … did we mention she kills?
But one of the most unusual things about Katniss isn’t the way she defies typical gender roles for heroines, but the way Peeta, her arena partner and one of her two love interests, defies typical Hollywood versions of gender roles for boyfriends.
Consider the evidence: Peeta’s family runs a bakery. He can literally bake a cherry pie, as theold song says.
He is physically tough, but markedly less so than she is. He’s got a good firm spine, but he lacks her disconnected approach to killing. Over and over, she finds herself screaming “PEETA!”, not calling for help but going to help, and then running, because he’s gone and done some damn fool thing like gotten himself electrocuted.
Her larger mission — her war against the Capitol — often drifts out of focus behind her smaller, more immediate mission: saving Peeta. She lets others know that if it’s down to the two of them, he should be saved because of his goodness. She is unsurprised when she’s told she doesn’t deserve him.
He encourages her to talk about her feelings. He encourages her to share herself with others. He promises her, falsely but selflessly, that her indifference doesn’t hurt him and she owes him nothing. If she ever wants to come to her senses, come down from those fences, he’ll be there.
He’s better than she is, but softer. He’s less knowing than she is. He’s less cynical than she is. He’s just as tough and as brave as he can possibly be with the skill set he has, and she’s responsible for mopping up when that’s not enough. To fail to protect him is to betray her, because that may well be the only job she gives you.
She kisses him sometimes, but she keeps him on a need-to-know basis, and she decides what he needs to know.
He loves her as she is, while knowing he’ll never change her and parts of her will always be mysterious and out of reach.
Don’t get me wrong: In real life, we all know couples of all gender alignments who operate in this way and in lots of other ways, whether they’re male-female or two guys or two women or whatever; there’s absolutely nothing about baking, physical strength, or emotional accessibility that is inherently gendered in real life for real humans with any consistency. But the movies, or at least the big movies, are different. Going by the traditional Hollywood rules, make no mistake: Peeta is a Movie Girlfriend.
Peeta is Pepper Potts and Gwen Stacy, helping and helping and helping until the very end, when it’s time for the stakes, and the stakes are: NEEDS RESCUE. Peeta is Annie in Speed, who drives that bus like a champ right up until she winds up handcuffed to a pole covered with explosives. Peeta is Holly in Die Hard, who holds down the fort against the terrorists until John McClane can come and find her (and she can give back her maiden name).
In fact, you could argue that Katniss’ conflict between Peeta and Gale is effectively a choice between a traditional Movie Girlfriend and a traditional Movie Boyfriend. Gale, after all, is the one whose bed she winds up steadfastly sitting beside after she helps bind his wounds. Gale explains the revolution to her. She puts up a plan to run; Gale rebuffs it because he presumes himself to know better. Gale is jealous and brooding about his standing with her; Peeta is just sad and contemplative.
Gale works in the mines, not in a bakery. He’s a hunter. He grabs her and kisses her because he simply must. He’s taller. (Real talk: HE’S THOR’S BROTHER.)
There’s more to the unusual gender dynamics in these stories, in other words — particularly, I think, in the films — than the idea of a girl who fights. There’s also a rather delightful mishing and mashing of the ideas of what’s expected from young men in movies where everybody is running around shooting and bleeding. (via NPR)
I’d never, ever hurt a lady but I’d be happy to punch a feminist.
It’d bring me great joy.
I’m 6’2 and weigh 180lbs
ready when you are
Or if you’d like to have some more options….
and have 9 years of combined martial arts training and 3 years of being a Line Backer in football.
Just in case you are looking for variety.
what about a lady and a feminist. warning, combatives certified soldier.
James and Sirius are always called little shits and, while it’s true that they were mischievous as hell, don’t try to tell me that Lily wasn’t, too.
So, for Ida, the evidence for my claim, in the silliest character defense I’ve ever written, why Lily Potter (nee Evans) is a little shit.
She has no qualms about breaking the rules/social norms/laws when she’s feels that she’s in the right, it’s important, that she won’t get caught, or that it’s the better way. (rules as suggestions, rather than hard and fast = little shit potential)
-She jumps off the wing, flies through the air, again and again, specifically after her Mum has told her not to. She’s also obviously still played around with this power, whatever it is, because she shows her sister that she can open and close the flower in her hand.
-She invades her sister’s privacy to read the letter from Dumbledore.
-She is best friends with a Slytherin when she’s a Gryffindor. And at that, a boy no one likes. He is gross, her choice is challenged, her housemates despise him, personally, and Slytherins in general because inter-house relations were not the best because of the war.
-Later, she learns that Remus is a werewolf, the other marauders are animagi. The knowledge, even though social convention would tell her to run the other way, does not prevent her from befriending Remus, being friends with Sirius, or trusting Peter with the lives of her family and herself.
-She joins a secret organization, which operates outside the law, to try and end purism and the death eater movement.
-She marries a pureblood when there is a war raging, telling them not to.
-She brings a baby into a world that calls him an abomination.
In her letter to Padfoot, she references James using the cloak. She doesn’t mind that he sneaks out, which is against the rules/common sense. Instead, she’s lamenting the loss of the invisibility cloak so he can’t get out and is expressing her sympathy that he’s going stir crazy.
She is sassy as hell. (Snark/sass + friendly/playful = little shit)
-At times we see this in a negative light-she lashes out when she feels attacked, has a quick temper, and has a great ability to retort/speak her mind/bite back. But I would suggest that this is because most of what we see is through Snape’s eyes, at his (and therefore, her, worst moments).
-In the Prince’s tale, Lily rounds on Snape several times, both retorting and going on the offensive. When she feels attacked, when he’s trying to get away with something, if she feels he’s insulting her, or if he’s hurt someone she loves, she bites back at him.
-On the platform, she tells Petunia that she had read her letter when, really, she could have gotten away with it. She reminds Petunia that the magical world can’t be so bad if she wants to be part of it. Again, lashing out.
-The sass she hands out to James in SWM. We all have that speech memorized so I’ll save it
She rounds on Snape, calls him Snivelley, and tells him to wash his pants.
-Slughorn tells us about the cheeky comments she used to give when he’d tell her she should have been sorted into his house
But she has a great sense of humor/overall mischievous nature
While we don’t get much in the way of Lily’s snark cast in a positive light, we do get glimpses, and those glimpses are very telling.
-The first is the Slughorn thing. He says that she gave out cheeky comments. I can only imagine what those retorts would have been to have left such an impression on him, all those years later, and make him recall her with fondness as one of his favorite students. The playfulness is great.
-So if she’s like this with a professor, how would she be with her friends? A million times more, right? Because the girl can sass like no one’s business, and that + playful sense of humor = awesome
-This is definitely evidenced in her letter to Padfoot (see below)
Her letter to Padfoot.
I’m just going to break down this letter, because it’s that important. Really, it’s the only time we hear Lily’s voice outside the context of someone else’s memory or as a dead mother coming to comfort or help her son (think about that and cry, ok?).
-She thinks the gift-the broomstick, not the safest thing, Sirius’s gift, is brilliant. She thinks it’s great.
-She finds it hilarious that the cat gets nearly gets killed. She thinks it’s brilliant, and the only reason she’s telling him is because she knows he’ll get a kick out of it, too.
-The vase from petunia. Absolutely my head canon that on this, more than anything: Lily and Sirius saw eye to eye, they both had messed up sibling relationships and in some way became that for one another-a healthy sibling relationship. So, Christmas, and Lily opens up her present from Petunia. And it is some god awful vase for Christmas. Who knows how many jokes were made. Then she’s like, whoops, y’know that terrible vase Sirius? Harry broke it. It’s not like I’m a witch and could fix it or anything. It belongs in the bin, now.
-She says Bathilda is losing her mind. Love it.
She’s not afraid to take risks, if she thinks it will be worth it or if she thinks it’s important.
-She attempts to wield and control this unknown power that lets her fly off swings and play flowers.
-She befriends this weird little boy, who dresses funny and says strange things.
-She leaves her family at the age of 11 to go, quite literally, into a new world.
-She goes on a date with James Potter at age 17 [see below].
-She joins the Order of the Phoenix at age 18.
-She marries at age 19, while they’re both fighting in a war
-She brings Harry into the world
-She fights Voldemort not once, not twice, but three times and still would have been fighting if she hadn’t been forced into hiding. Grit and determination, that woman. Ugh.
She chooses to date James and befriend the marauders.
-to date James. She has a choice, you know. She could just avoid him completely and go their separate ways after school. She wouldn’t surround herself by people she couldn’t stand. That’s just logical. If she really hates him, she would tolerate him for head duties and nothing more. So, either she does a complete 180, or she never really hates him to begin with which, according to Sirius, is closer to the truth. Her objections to James are his arrogance and his habit of hexing others, not his pranking and rule breaking behavior. (We’ve already established that she breaks the rules herself, when it suits her.) She and James are equals, well suited to each other, and that, in part, means similar temperaments. She isn’t a stick in the mud who couldn’t tolerate pranks/having a good time/having fun. So when he tones down the arrogance, (but not the orneriness. If you look at the prequel, even at age 20 James is still an ornery little shit. That didn’t change), she gives him a chance.
-her choice to befriend the marauders. Same thing. She wouldn’t surround herself with people she couldn’t stand. If their personalities were really that different, they just be James’s friends, not hers as well. If she really hates Sirius, if she couldn’t stand his antics, if she doesn’t find them, she wouldn’t write him letters and trust him with Harry (it’s one thing to name someone godfather in peacetime, another thing altogether when you have a price on your heads and you’re fighting in a war). If she doesn’t adore Peter, she wouldn’t trust him with the Fidelius Charm.
She was snarky and sassy and witty and clever and showed a complete disregard for the rules when it suited her. She befriended other mischievous little shits because she liked to be around them, because she loved them. I am done.
(Ida, I hope I have done you proud. Have I made my case? I accept worship in the form of diet coke and praise.)
Anonymous asked: I've been thinking a bit lately and let me start by saying that I love jily desperately, but recently I've been thinking: isn't it kind of bad to romanticize "harassment"? Like the idea that "no" means "oh she wants it, I just have to try harder"
It is, yes, unequivocally, one-hundred-percent bad bad bad to romanticize harassment of any kind. Bingo, my dear anon, you hit the nail right on the head; and in doing so, you have stumbled upon an interesting, fan-made misconception of Lily and James’s relationship (of which even I’ve been guilty on a few occasions, so no need to tell me). Allow me to explain:
The only canon interaction of the pre-Jily James and Lily we have is in “Snape’s Worst Memory,” in which James asks Lily out once. One time. That’s it. We can speculate on how often he asks otherwise, but JKR has only given us this instance, and no indication that James spent his time off-page harassing Lily for a date. And considering adolescent James’s loud-mouthed enthusiasm and general lack of decorum, sure, it’s reasonable to assume that he asked Lily out a few times. But he also respected Lily as a person, which is evident in his wariness of her wand, and his anger at “Mudblood” being used against her (the slur alone is bad enough, as he can’t even say it aloud, but using it against Lily also seems to resonate more personally with James, too, and that could actually be an entirely new discussion, let’s move on before I wander woefully off-topic).
JKR never implies that James is the “Oh, she wants it, I just have to try harder” type; that’s something fans assumed and then used in their various headcanons and fanfictions. So, in the end, James’s characterization as the pushy, coercive type says more about readers’ social conditioning than it does James’s actual character.
Marina Sirtis talks about Deanna Troi and the inverse relation between cleavage and brains in TNG
There are certain rules in Hollywood. One of the rules is not written anywhere, but you just know: if you’re doing an action-adventure show, you gotta have chicks on the show for the boys to look at when they’re not blowing up other spaceships. Second rule: if the chick has a cleavage, she cannot have a brain.
So, [after wearing a uniform in the first episode] I got a cleavage, and all my gray matter departed. Which was sad, because originally (I know this is gonna shock you), Troi was supposed to be the brains of the Enterprise. So when the cleavage came, all that left, and I became decorative, like a potted palm on the bridge.
Then of course came the second season, and I was the only young one left. We had me and we had Diana, and so I had to become all things to all men. And so I got the red outfit, and and then we got the lilac outfit and then we got the green dress. Under the green dress I got to wear a corset, a satin corset, with bones in, like Scarlet O’Hara.
Now, as you know, with a corset everything gets pushed up or down. What was pushed down was kind of enclosed in the skirt and what was pushed up was enclosed in what I named “the Industrial Strength Starfleet Brassiere”, which was a wonder of modern engineering. I mean, I used to take it off at night and go "oh blimey, where did they go?". In fact, we had guest stars - and I’m no Twiggy - who would come and see me in the morning as Marina and then they would see me two hours later as Troi, and they’d go to costume and go "I want that bra!"
So then we got to season six, and there was the episode “Chain of Command" where we were trying out the new captain, Captain Jellico (just in case Patrick wanted too much money for next season, we were auditioning other captains), and he said to Troi “Go put on a uniform”. And lo and behold, there was one in her closet. So I put it on, and by then I was skinny, and the director and all the producers were like "she looks good in that, why wasn’t she been wearing that for the last six years?"
So I started to wear my spacesuit. I was thrilled to finally be in a spacesuit. First of all, my pips - cause I had a rank, you know. And then, it was very flattering actually, it looked really good.
Suddenly, I was smart again. My cleavage had gone. My gray matter came flooding back. I was on away teams! I was the leader of one away team! I had a medical tricorder! And unlike Beverly, I seemed to know what was wrong with people.
And, in this one particular episode, where we were on the Romulan ship - because suddenly I am the expert in Romulan technology - I had this line: "That’s impossible. The Romulans use an artificial quantum singularity as their power source". Who did I say it to? Geordi and Data! They didn’t know this. To be honest, when we were shooting the scene and I was saying the line, I was sneaking looks to my right and left to make sure they hadn’t developed a cleavage while I wasn’t looking.
~ The brilliant and hilarious Marina Sirtis at DragonCon 2010: Star Trek TNG Panel (Abridged from this video. The panel begins here, go check it out, it’s totally worth it).
shuumatsuheroine asked: 42, 49, 53!
42. FAVOURITE BOOK(S)
So this is really hard for me because whenever I get asked this one I go blank and all I can think of is Harry Potter. I know I have other favorite books though. So here’s the short list.
Harry Potter - the entire series because who are we kidding. (If I HAD to pick one, let it be Prisoner of Azkaban)
Pride and Prejudice. That book is sassy as shit and I laugh my ass off every time.
49. WHERE I WANT TO BE RIGHT NOW
In bed? But no lately I’ve really been missing Japan more and more. And now that a CERTAIN *ahem* best friend is going to be there at the Arashi concert without me makes me want to go there (in December, mind) even more. =]
53. 5 THINGS THAT MAKE ME HAPPY
(in no particular order because no)